March 18th, 2013 by Katie Morton
(I call this photo: WTF March?!?!)
A big part of my philosophy is that there is no such thing as failure; only lessons to be learned. It’s an important distinction to embrace because it helps ease the fear around risk-taking…and we must take healthy, calculated risks so that we can grow, change and thrive in order to live a blissful life. If I make a mistake, there’s no need to get upset; I can simply learn and grow – a piece of knowledge that makes risk-taking palatable.
Expression, Connection and Passion
The three elements we’re going to talk about today are expression, connection and passion. One of the biggest, yet most rewarding and important risks we take is expressing ourselves and connecting with others. I believe that the ways we best like to express and connect tie in to realizing what our purpose, dream and vision is for a blissful life.
Personally, my preferred means of expression is writing (you probably could have figured that out), but I also love art – drawing, painting, photography, and collage.
Take a moment to answer this question: How do you best like to express yourself? When do you find yourself lost in the flow? Is it over a cup of coffee with a friend? Is it writing? Playing an instrument? Drawing, writing a book, or delivering a speech?
As for the connection piece of the puzzle, I love connecting with people one-on-one and in small groups – sharing an exchange of ideas. This ties in to my vision of eventually holding retreats for women who want to upend their limitations and live blissfully. I also love connecting over email, and by writing posts, books and articles.
What are your preferred means of connecting with others? For some it might be via healing touch, like physical therapy, massage or other medicinal care. It might be speaking to (or with) groups, large or small. It might involve music, or dance, or art. Maybe you prefer to connect while surrounded by nature. Perhaps your favorite means of connection is visual, like styling clothing or designing living spaces. And of course, there’s writing.
This brings me to uncovering your passion – a word that’s as overused as it is mystifying. I think “passion” can be boiled down to the simplest of questions: What do you like to do, or think about, or read about, or talk about, or write about? It’s an important question to ask, even when you don’t yet have anyone to share your passion with. (That’s “finding your tribe” and that comes a little later in the game.)
The topics that interest and excite people are unlimited. Perhaps you like bonding over the engineering miracle of vehicles. Maybe your passion involves gardening, knitting, or showing people that it’s possible to take their family on a year-long sailing trip (like one of my readers is doing!) Or if you’re like me, you enjoy helping people see what’s possible for them, to live up to their potential, and to make their lives so rewarding and fulfilling that they feel positively blissful. No passion is “better” than any other passion. The only thing that matters is that you love engaging in your passion and it makes you feel happy and alive.
Have You Felt Frustrated or Uninspired?
I attend a weekly meeting for female entrepreneurs and the experience has been spiritual. The connections, the coincidences, and the helping hands we all extend to one another have been phenomenal. And in attending this group, I had the idea to complete a novel that had been sitting in my proverbial desk drawer for a long time. Yes, I completed writing a novel as I’m launching a business and caring fulltime for a small child. The energy and enthusiasm for life I have right now is amazing to me, and it’s thanks to the 10 Steps to a Blissful Life. I printed out the cheat sheet at the end of the book and I refer to it often.
I tell you all of this not to gloat, but because if it’s possible for someone like me to experience this level of commitment and inspiration, then it’s possible for you, too.
Attending this weekly entrepreneurial meeting is part of step 9, expanding your social circle. I can’t wait to have the extended version of the 10 steps ready for you to read. My entrepreneurial group confirmed my suspicion that the 10 steps are very hard to apply to your life if you don’t know the whole story and haven’t done all of the exercises. The free eBook is likely to get rolled into a paid program someday soon, because its value lies in bringing tighter context to the bigger picture, sort of like a study guide, rather than standing on its own. So if you have felt frustrated or uninspired by the free eBook, don’t fret – there is much more to come.
At the urging of a fellow entrepreneur, I’ve been convinced to include all of the sordid, dramatic details of My Story in another eBook so that I can provide another angle for instruction via my real life example and transformation. Part of this story is already on my web site, but it’s a very pared down version. The expanded story will include how after I was laid off, I had to completely change my mindset to gain the courage to strike out on my own rather than reentering the work force, plus the work I’ve done to make my life into a well-oiled machine so that I can perform in a state of peak wellness. (I say this as I look out on a snowy morning – no gym for me today – so I had to get creative with lunges and squats during a morning walk with my daughter. The photo above is a souvenir from our walk.)
My manifesto is this:
I believe that you are a valuable human being
who deserves to live a magnificent life.
To live a magnificent life, it’s essential that we do the work to discover how we most like to express ourselves, connect with others, and what our passions are. Figuring out what exactly these things are for each of us is not at all an obvious or easy process for most people. It took me years to figure it out, of asking myself these questions, and of testing hypotheses.
There’s no quick fix to living a blissful, magnificent life. I’m still fine-tuning my approach, but doing this work has certainly been worth the happy results. I’m so glad you’ve chosen to join me on this journey, and I look forward to witnessing the beautiful discovery of your own blissful, magnificent life.
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